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Tips On Finding A Loving, Loyal, And All Around Amazing Spouse

Finding a loving, loyal, and all around amazing spouse is one of the most difficult and most rewarding things that any person will ever do in their lifetime. Unfortunately however, there are millions upon millions of people around the world who will make bad decisions regarding spouse selection. These arepeople who, as a result of poor spouse selection decisions doom themselves to unhappy marriages, divorce, and ultimately a lifetime of bitter lonliness.

Now I’m no expert on this subject, but as somebody who has been down the aisle a couple of times now, I do have a few ideas to share that readers may deem helpful as they set out on their path to find the right partner.

One of the first things that one must keep in mind when you are looking for a husband or wife to share your life with is that this is an entirely different matter than simply finding a boyfriend or girlfriend to keep you busy for a few months or a couple of years while you are still “keeping your options open” and “having fun”. Indeed, while a short-term dating partner may be chosen on the basis of looks, sexual compatibility, or just the fact that you like to hang out and drink beers together, when selecting a spouse one must consider how the relationship will pan out in the long term.

While sexual compatibilty is still an important factor to consider there are three other factors that I haver identified that I feel are equally important to the long term health of any marriage, they are as follows:

1) Commitment to the relationship – So many people these days take marriage lightly. Just look at those bozos in Hollywood, marrying and divorcing each other on a whim, it’s disgusting. So, before you say “I do” be sure to discuss your beliefs about marriage and commitment with your spouse and confirm that they take entering into this sacred union as seriously as you do and that they are willing to stick in there for the long haul, like they say, “in good times and in bad.” In other words, you want your spouse to be on lockdown, because they want to be After all, you don’t want a spouse who starts sharing these warning signs, that would really suck, believe me…

2) Ideas on child rearing – If you are still at an age where having children is a physical possibilty, then it is important that you and your potential spouse discuss what you both want in regards to starting a family. Needless to say, if you get married and then discover that your partner wants to have ten kids, while you want none, this is gauranteed to cause some relationship trouble.

3) Having compatible “money blueprints” – I got this from T Harv Eker. Basically he says that every person has a blueprint for how they think about and handle money, based on their early life programming and social conditioning. Since finances are statistically one of the biggest sources of confict in marriages, it is importnat that you and your potential spouse have similar views on spending, earning, saving and investing.

I would assert that simply by using these three things to guide your spouse selection decision making that you would be better off than 97% of folks who are getting married these days.

Using PUA Books To Improve Your Dating Game

18722469_sFor a lot of men, getting a date is just not very easy. Indeed, many guys end up having to go through rejection after rejection and many bad first dates from hell before they are able to get with the women of their dreams.

That being said, a lot of guys are looking for ways to improve their attraction game through reading what are known as “PUA Books” which is short short for pick-up-artist books, in other words books penned by men who claim to be pick-up masters who have all the secrets for attracting and winning over the most beautiful of females.

One of the most popular of these pick-up books is a program called Vin Dicarlo’s Pandora’s Box, which claims that there are actually 8 specific types of women that men will meet on the dating scene and that each “type” requires a certain pick up approach. While that may all sound complex, the neat thing about this particular course is that it provides users with a special profiling tool that they can use to quickly tell what type a woman is, as well as what one can think of as “cliff notes” on how to go about wooing that type of a female.

You may ask yourself “am I the sort of guy who would benefit from reading pick up guide or watch DVD programs on this topic?” That is a good question. My answer is: probably.

You see, it all depends on how good or bad your game is right now. My advice would be to follow the following protocol to improve your game:

First, fix your looks. People say that looks are not important but people who say that are either old or have been out of the dating game for way too long. Looks are important because they show the other person that you take care of yourself and know that they mean something to you because you took the time to look good for them. Women love a man who knows how to dress. Impress your date with a nice coat or sport coat, or snazzy casual outfit with a jacket. Accessories are just as important as the outfit you wear. Wear your best watch and nicest pair of shoes for the date.

Once you have the look down pat, show intelligence and wit by keeping the conversation going or with witty jokes. Women love a man who is both intelligent and has a sense of humor. Who says chivalry is gone? You can bring a gift or bouquet of flowers for your date to show her that you care. These are just a few ways to impress any beautiful lady you meet.

If those first too steps don’t work then I would certainly recommend investing in a book or two and reading up on this subject matter. After all, the more you know the better position you will be in when your dream girl comes into your life!